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Our research approach

Relationship Tips draws on established relationship science — ideas like perceived partner responsiveness, turning toward bids for connection, softened conflict start-up, fondness and admiration, gratitude, and repair behaviour. We never fabricate or overstate a source: anything not yet verified by our team is kept out of this public page.

Grounded, everyday moments of connection

Perceived Partner Responsiveness

The degree to which a partner is seen as understanding, validating and caring in response to needs and disclosures.

Turning Toward / Bids for Connection

Small moments where one partner reaches out for attention, affirmation or connection, and whether the other partner notices and responds.

Softened Conflict Start-Up

How a difficult conversation begins shapes how it unfolds — starting gently rather than with criticism predicts a more constructive outcome.

Fondness and Admiration

Maintaining and expressing genuine respect and admiration for a partner as a buffer against relationship negativity.

Positive Interaction

The balance of positive to negative interactions during everyday exchanges and during conflict.

Active Constructive Responding

Responding to a partner's good news with enthusiasm and engagement, rather than passively or dismissively.

Gratitude

Noticing and expressing genuine appreciation for a partner's actions and qualities.

Self-Determination Theory

People thrive when their needs for autonomy, competence and relatedness are supported, including within relationships.

Attachment Research

How felt security, availability and responsiveness between partners shapes relationship functioning.

Compassionate Goals

Approaching a partner's needs from a place of wanting to support them, rather than to manage impressions or avoid conflict.

Michelangelo Phenomenon

Partners can help "sculpt" each other toward their own ideal selves through everyday support of each other's goals.

Dyadic Coping

How couples jointly manage stress — sharing the load rather than facing pressure individually.

Repair Behaviour

Actions taken during or after conflict that de-escalate tension and restore connection.

Relationship Growth Beliefs

Whether partners view relationship challenges as workable and improvable, versus fixed and unchangeable.